Karma is going to get you.

How many times have you heard someone say "Karma is going to get you"?  Every time I hear that phrase I shudder.  Karma is not your personal revenge tool.  Karma is about balance not revenge.

When something bad or unpleasant happens to you, instead of worrying about Karma wreaking havoc on the person who has caused you this pain, concentrate on what lesson you need to learn from this experience.  If we focus more on ourselves and our actions and our lessons rather than some 'nasty person who done me wrong', we are more likely to grow and become better people.

Situations in life are opportunities to learn how to improve ourselves.  We go through our frantic day to day lives and usually don't have time to concentrate on ourselves.  Who we are, what we stand for.  Our time is spent reacting to situations.  When a situation puts a spanner in the works for us the first thing we want to do is blame someone one else for our misfortunes.  Then we have a choice.  We can say "Karma is going to get you" and feel comforted knowing that someone else is going to feel pain and you carry on your merry way.  The alternative is a much harder but a much more rewarding path.  You can look at the situation and ask yourself some hard questions.  "Did my actions contribute to this situation arising?" "Is there something I can learn from this experience?"  "Have I put too much importance on my car/job/house?" "How can I stop this situation developing again?" 

Sometimes it is very hard to look objectively at a situation and to accept responsibility for what has happened.  You sometimes need to give yourself some time to heal before you can really look at a situation and learn some lessons from it.  Put it away for a little while but you must come back to it and analyze what you need to learn from the situation.  This can sometimes be very painful but if you can learn that you can change your behaviour to stop this from happening again, surely it is worth it.

So often I see people (myself included) spending time and energy worrying about what other people are doing and putting judgements on them.  If we put that time and energy concentrating on what we are doing and how our actions affect us and the people around us, I am sure this world would be a lot nicer place to live.