I cannot tell you the amount of times I put myself through unneccessary stress.
I have scenarios running round in my head about who will say what and what my reactions will be. I get all tense and upset. I can't eat, I can's sleep and then what happens? Nothing! My scenarios were a waste of energy because it never happened.
I have a tendancy to imagine the worst - the downside of an active imagination.
So why do I do this to myself? I have no idea. Is it of any use to me? I am not sure.
Sometimes, I think it is not a waste of energy after all.
In these worst case scenarios, I plan what I will do. First reaction is either being a coward or getting even. Then, after a little while, I realise I am better than that. I decide on a course of action that I can carry out with a calmness that I may not always feel and usually decide on an action that has me standing up for myself (something I find hard to do). Then when I know I can carry out the intended reaction, I feel strong within myself. Then the worst does not happen.
Was it a waste of energy? Perhaps not. Maybe my committment to stand up for myself made the confrontation unnecessary. I could overcome my own lack of confidence in my imagination without having my ripples affect others.
The next thing I have to work on is to leave the emotion out of my scenarios.
I have scenarios running round in my head about who will say what and what my reactions will be. I get all tense and upset. I can't eat, I can's sleep and then what happens? Nothing! My scenarios were a waste of energy because it never happened.
I have a tendancy to imagine the worst - the downside of an active imagination.
So why do I do this to myself? I have no idea. Is it of any use to me? I am not sure.
Sometimes, I think it is not a waste of energy after all.
In these worst case scenarios, I plan what I will do. First reaction is either being a coward or getting even. Then, after a little while, I realise I am better than that. I decide on a course of action that I can carry out with a calmness that I may not always feel and usually decide on an action that has me standing up for myself (something I find hard to do). Then when I know I can carry out the intended reaction, I feel strong within myself. Then the worst does not happen.
Was it a waste of energy? Perhaps not. Maybe my committment to stand up for myself made the confrontation unnecessary. I could overcome my own lack of confidence in my imagination without having my ripples affect others.
The next thing I have to work on is to leave the emotion out of my scenarios.
