Many is the time that I have caught myself saying "I don't understand why they would do that" or "What were they thinking" when someone did something that did not make sense to me. By asking those questions I am doing two things. One, I am trying to put myself in someone elses shoes, and secondly, I am making a judgement call on someone else's actions based solely on my experiences and perspective.
I will never be able to put myself into someone else's shoes because I have not experienced the things they have experienced and will never be able to copy their thought patterns. They are unique and so am I. Also, it is not my place to make judgement calls on the choices other people make. If I was perfect, maybe, but until that time arises, I have no right to judge others.
I have arrived at a place where I now put effort into understanding myself. Changing thought patterns and improving on choices I have made in the past and regretted. I strive to acknowledge the good choices I have made and to improve on choices and behaviours that I am not particularly proud of. This life is about me and no one else. I need to spend time on me rather than distracting myself with thoughts of improving other people. I am the only person I can change.
I believe life is about living your own life in your own unique way and allowing others to do the same.
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